When you’re in a relationship with someone, in an ideal world, you will travel together most of the time and enjoy amazing vacations. However, there will also be occasions when one of you fancy going away with friends instead.
What would you do, though, if your partner said they wanted to go n a five-week trip with their ex?! That’s the exact situation that a Reddit user (21F) is currently dealing with – let’s find out what her plan is.
A Recipe for Disaster?
The original poster (OP) explains that her boyfriend (21M) wants to go to South America for five weeks, and she can’t go with him because of work commitments. He doesn’t want to go there alone, and none of his friends can afford the trip either. His ex is the only person he knows who would be up for the trip.
OP says that the pair used to go traveling a lot together, and they were good friends before they ever entered into a relationship. In fact, the entire “relationship” only lasted a few months before they realized that they were better off just being friends.
They Are Close Friends
After breaking up, the pair have remained close, and they often text each other to check in with each other. OP doesn’t have an issue with this as she figures that they both realized that they were better suited as friends rather than boyfriend and girlfriend, so there’s no threat.
However, the idea of them going away together for five weeks is causing her to feel anxious as they just are having fun with each other every day. She describes the potential trip as a “recipe for disaster,” and it’s easy to see where she’s coming from.
Her boyfriend has never done anything to make her not trust him, and he understands her concerns. However, she doesn’t want to be seen as a “controlling” girlfriend who tells him what he can and can’t do. Taking to Reddit, she wanted to gain some advice from other people on how to tackle the situation best.
A Valid Cause for Concern
Understandably, OP received a lot of support in the comments, with hundreds of people reassuring her that it was normal for her to feel put out by this. One user told her that she shouldn’t “feel pressured into being the “cool” girlfriend because anyone would be sussed out by this too,” while another said that it would be a “no” from them.
The Advice Rolls In
In terms of advice, one user told her to ask her boyfriend how he would feel if roles were reversed: “Ask him how he would feel if it was you traveling with your ex who broke up with you. Who is now a close friend of yours… Would he be okay with that? I bet he wouldn’t.”
Some Redditors reached the conclusion that if OP’s boyfriend decided to go on the trip, then she should call time on the relationship. Explaining why, one user said: “I mean, they would be sharing a room and stuff. Right? Five weeks. Just No. No WAY. I mean, you can’t stop him, but you can break up, and I would if he chooses to do this.”
How Would You Feel?
How would you feel if your significant other wanted to go on a five-week trip of a lifetime with their ex? Would you put a stop to it or not stand in their way? Let us know in the comments.
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