Going on vacation with your partner and children should be the perfect opportunity to spend quality time together as a family. However, for the husband (28m) of this forum user (28F), he saw it as the perfect opportunity to go awol with a friend he barely knows. Let’s find out just how selfish he has been.
A Trip to Forget
The original poster (OP) explains that she is away with her husband and eight-year-old child. It is the first time they’ve been away since well before the Covid pandemic due to travel restrictions and financial difficulties.
They have gone to a city she has always wanted to visit, and her husband has been taking language lessons to prepare for it. By pure coincidence, his language teacher and his wife were also in the city at the same time, so they had arranged to meet up with them.
Alone For Too Long
OP was fine with this but just asked her husband not to leave her alone with his wife for too long as she doesn’t know her too well and would rather just relax without making small talk.
They met up yesterday at around 4 pm, and the plan was for OP’s husband to spend some time with his language teacher while the girls stuck together with OP’s kid. They were then meant to meet back up after a couple of hours. Unfortunately, OP’s husband stopped answering his phone and wasn’t seen again until after 10 pm.
Going To See A Bridge at 3 AM
At this point, OP just wanted to go back to the hotel room as both she and their daughter were exhausted. However, her husband wanted to go to a late-night tourist attraction, so she ended up meeting him there.
On the way back to the hotel, he then dropped it on her that he was going to get up at 3 am to go and see a popular bridge that is usually rammed in the day. Not wanting to tell him “no,” she didn’t say anything and just went to sleep.
It is now the afternoon of the day that he went out in the middle of the night, and he still isn’t back, and she’s fed up. Taking to a discussion forum, she wanted advice on how to confront him about his selfish behavior.
Social Media Didn't Hold Back
Everyone who commented on the post was in full agreement that OP’s husband had acted terribly and that she needed to tell him straight how bad he had been. One user made this very clear by saying:
“OP, you’ve gotta communicate how you’re feeling to him. If you don’t, he’ll think things are alright when they really aren’t.”
Having A Horrible Vacation
Others suggested that she should send him a message now instead of waiting for him to return back from wherever he was. Posting a suggested message, one user said:
“Text him, “I’m having a horrible vacation, and it’s really getting to me because I’ve been dreaming of coming here for years. I thought it would be so much fun, but instead, it’s been one disaster after another. I’m putting on a brave face for kid, but I feel so alone and miserable.” If that doesn’t get him back, this guy is not a keeper.”
How Would You React?
How would you react if your husband did this on a family vacation? Would you be contemplating the future of the relationship? Let us know in the comments.