A traveler (27M) is heading to Paris in a couple of weeks with his girlfriend (27F). During the trip, they are planning on meeting up with some of his friends while they are there, and she wants to include an old friend of hers who moved to Paris years ago. So, why is the original poster so against the idea? Let’s find out.
Double Standards at Play?
The original poster (OP) starts the story by explaining that while he and his girlfriend are in Paris this summer, some of his closest friends will be there too. The coincidental plan wasn’t arranged, but he thinks it makes sense for them to at least hang out a little while they are all in the same place.
Upon hearing this suggestion, OP’s girlfriend wasn’t overly keen on the idea as she believes that one of the friends in the group doesn’t like her. This is news to OP as she has hung out with this friend on several occasions in the US, and there have never been any issues.
A Meet Up In Paris
Perhaps disgruntled about having to spend some of her vacation with OP’s friends, she has suggested that they meet up with an old friend of hers who lives in Paris. She hasn’t seen this friend, a male, for nine years, but she says that he used to be “like a brother to her.”
For her to reach out to this friend, she would also have to get back in touch with her ex-boyfriend, as she met him through him and doesn’t have his number. OP feels weird about this and has told her that he doesn’t understand why she would want to go through all of that effort to see someone she hasn’t spoken to in nine years.
In response, she (perhaps rightly) questioned why she wasn’t allowed to meet up with a friend while on vacation if he was. For OP, though, the two situations are completely different. Taking to Reddit, he wanted to know if he was right to think it was odd of her to want to see this guy while they are in Paris.
Not the Response He Was Looking For
Unfortunately for the OP, most people in the comments section believed that his girlfriend had done nothing wrong. One user summed up the thoughts of the community up well by saying:
“It’s a group hangout. Why is that a problem? She wants to meet with an old friend and introduce him to OP. That sounds innocent and understandable.
A Bit Uncomfortable
Plus, OP’s gf is agreeing to hang out with someone who makes her a bit uncomfortable because that’s important to OP, and she’s a supportive partner. This is OP’s chance to return the favor. OP’s creating a problem that doesn’t need to exist.”
Another user went in even harder on OP and questioned why he was forcing his girlfriend to hang out with someone she doesn’t feel comfortable around. Their comment read:
“You need to ask yourself why you’re friends with, and hanging out with, someone who doesn’t like her and makes her feel like an outcast. Maybe that’s the real issue here that you’re sliding right over. This is her vacation too, not just yours, and to most, going to Paris is a big once in a lifetime trip. Why should she be uncomfortable on her own vacation?”
What Do You Think?
What do you think? Is OP’s girlfriend perfectly entitled to hang out with this old friend while on vacation if he is doing the same with his friends? Or is she just doing it to spite him? Let us know in the comments.
(Source: Reddit)
